Getting a pet can come with its own complications but even more so if you have to switch between two parents’ houses frequently. There are some things to consider and decide on when thinking about bringing a new pet in your life.

Nationally, 2013 data from the US Census Bureau indicates that there are 14.4 million custodial parents in the United States. This means that there are millions of children who need to alternate houses due to a divorce or other reasons. Within those numbers, there are many people who want to get a pet but are unsure about how it would work since they aren’t at the same house all the time.

Questions you may have…

Should I Bring My Pet With Me?

If you are in a situation where you do have to switch houses, it’s generally best to leave your pet at one house. The frequent transition can cause your pet unnecessary stress. Some pets, such as dogs can make the adjustment of alternating homes. However the best solution, especially for young pups, would be to stay at a single house.

What Will Happen When I Am Gone?

When you get a pet, it is usually your responsibility to care for them. If you should leave your pet at one house, what will happen when you aren’t there? The answer to this question varies depending on the family. If you are having a conversation about getting a pet it’s important to know that there is somebody, such as a parent or sibling, who is at that house can care for them when you are gone. The care will vary depending on the pet but it’s a good idea to go for something more low maintenance if it is your individual pet.

Won’t I Miss Them?

It is very possible that you will miss them when you aren’t at that house. It’s a natural feeling to have, just like how you might miss one parent when you are at the other household. It most likely won’t disturb your everyday routines and you will probably get used to not having them around half the time. If it helps, maybe keep a couple photos with you or talk it over with your parent/s.

What if My Parents Say No?

If your parents tell you that you/them aren’t ready, are unsure, etc, the best thing to do is to leave it for a bit and trust what they say. Your parents most likely have a reason to say no and/or be hesitant. If you are really devoted to getting a pet, maybe do a good amount of research about some of the pets you are considering and then bring it up again a little while later.

The Next Steps…

If one (or both) of your parents have agreed that you can have a pet, the next step would be deciding what kind of pet you are going to get. This is a big step for everyone, not just for people who aren’t at the same house all the time. We have an article called Which Pet is Best for You? Answer These Questions Before You Buy, if you are still unsure about what is best for you and the situation you are in. The process will be pretty much exactly the same as somebody who stays at a single house.

Having a pet is a joyful experience to go through. Even though it may be difficult for some people to not be able to care for their own pet all the time, it’s important to know that you are not alone.